The Power of Compassion

It is our true nature to be empathic and compassionate… We even have parts of our brain called empathy neurons that allow us to connect deeply to each other’s experience …These neurons evolved because as a species our survival is enhanced if we can take care of each other… Because our brain has not been able to distinguish stress from danger, frequently when we are stressed we are triggered into fear responses that interfere with our innate capacity to be caring and loving … Much of what we have learned from our parents, teachers and culture as a whole has been affected by this highly sensitive fear response and not learning that is generated from feelings of love and compassion… Because these stress and fear responses are ubiquitous we are conditioned to both judgmental and critical behavior robbing us of the ability to develop loving, safe and compassionate responses to ourselves and to others that we desire and deserve… As a result we are conditioned to be; • competitive when it is our true nature to be cooperative • judgmental when we feel better giving and receiving support • resentful or angry at ourselves and others when is our true nature to be compassionate I would like you for a moment just to imagine what it would have been like if as a child, every time you made a mistake, every time you failed to reach a desired goal, you had somebody who could relate to you with compassion and support…Someone who would say things like: “I am sure that whatever went wrong it is not because you had a desire to hurt yourself.” “I know that you were not deliberately trying to cause yourself pain.” Someone who would antidote your tendency to describe yourself as “lazy,” “stupid,” or “self-destructive, when because you are human you inevitably made mistakes… Replacing these self-critical reactions with empathic responses like: “you probably made a mistake because you didn’t know how to do things differently” “You must have been stressed and weren’t thinking clearly…” Or ” You might have gotten anxious and didn’t make the best choice…” Neuroscience has confirmed my belief that we can stop this negative self- talk by replacing these painful patterns with ones that bring greate self- acceptance, love, creativity and joy into our lives. An important part of my emotional education program is teaching you just had to do that… Because you have been conditioned by a judgmental society but you may not be aware of the fact that every time you judge someone else, you are exercising your ” judgment muscle”…when you flex this muscle you strengthen it and ultimately turn this criticism on yourself… In addition you are simultaneously strengthening your own tendency to expect criticisms…

When you criticize others you lose both the opportunity to feel their humanity and your own… You lose the beautiful and sustaining awareness that we are all interconnected loving and lovable human beings deserving to be treated with dignity…

I would love to share with you an approach that has helped thousands of people replace conditioned patterns that caused them pain with new patterns that create feelings of self-esteem, peace love and joy. Together we could create an atmosphere of genuine compassion and acceptance in which you can learn the very specific tools you need to transform and replace any patterns that are causing you pain or discomfort. It would be my great pleasure to help you become the person you have always wanted to be. Feel free to contact me at here and I will get back to you as soon as possible.