No one wants to suffer. All living organisms, including human beings, have an innate desire for growth. However, our conditioning can create unnecessary frustration and pain. The three fundamental approaches I use in my practice will accelerate the change process, allowing you to move beyond any frustrating or limiting thoughts and behaviors.The three elements include:
Most of the emotional reactions that cause us discomfort or pain are the result of patterns that have been wired into our brains when we were very young. Our culture hasn’t understood that these reactions need to be rewired to reflect our resources as we mature. Many of these reactions have caused a great deal of discomfort or pain. There is always an underlying positive motivation in all behavior and Brain rewiring allows us to fulfill this positive intent.
Most people have experienced a great deal of frustration trying unsuccessfully to stop a behavior that isn’t working. Change occurs quickly and permanently with brain rewiring, replacing any ineffective pattern with one that is more creative, satisfying, and sustainable.
We were never taught how to re-wire the brain, in order to experience the communication skills needed to have successful interactions (personal, social and professional). Science has taught us that we each have a specific “brain style.” Learning how to identify one’s own brain style and the brain style of other’s allows us to communicate more effectively.
We can learn to make the kind of impact we truly desire by transforming our reactions, especially those preventing us from having fulfilling relationships with ourselves, and others. This knowledge allows us to communicate with greater ease and confidence, inviting the positive responses we desire and avoiding stressful miscommunications. It also removes the “conflict out of conflict.” Learning about other communication styles, gives us a better understanding of where they are coming from, liberating us from the unnecessary tendency to take things personally.
In order for change to occur it is essential that we learn to develop feelings of love and compassion. Because we live in a judgmental and critical society most people have not learned how to fully develop these feelings. Brain rewiring and effective communication skills allow us to feel more powerful and productive, naturally enhancing our feelings of compassion.
Once we understand how and when to use these “emotional education” tools, we begin to communicate more effectively. Knowing how to rewire our brains, we are no longer in ineffective patterns from childhood. We begin to replace the messages that taught us to be critical and judgmental with more compassionate and dignified ways of looking at our own behavior and the behavior of those around us. By developing the ”receptive response,” we can fully ”take in” experiences that are positive and transformative.
Once these three elements have been synthesized, we become more open to new ways of communicating, we becomes more compassionate, as we are no longer stuck in old conditioned patterns. Learning this new form of communication reduces stress and frustration, and enhances our self-esteem. The synergy between these three pillars of change inspires us to grow beyond what we previously thought possible.
I know how important support has been in my own transformation and I want to support you in any way that I can. I have worked with people all over the world and can be available in person, on the phone or through Skype. Please check out my website helenkramer.com I have written a number of blogs to give you more tools for liberation and fulfillment. Feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will get back to you as soon as possible.