Early in my career I observed that when people reacted unproductively it was because they were stressed, not because they were self-defeating or masochistic. I intuited that what was happening resulted from the fact that the brain can’t distinguish stress from danger. In order for our species to survive we developed a hair-trigger response to fear because for most of our time on the planet man did live in mortal danger. Your stress signals are hijacked and the signal goes to its primitive, fight or flight center, leaving you with the brainpower you had as a helpless vulnerable child. I called this "Emotional Dyslexia" because it is a physical problem in the brain like the learning disability dyslexia.
My life and work have been devoted to helping myself and others transform any thoughts, behaviors and emotions that are causing pain or discomfort. Early in my career I was impressed with how motivated and well intentioned my clients were. And yet, I had seen so many people spend years in therapy without fulfilling their true desire to live a more fulfilled and liberated life. I never doubted that people’s intentions were pure and yet I could understand their frustration at not being able to attain or maintain desired changes. My approach to creating change is based on the belief that all living organisms have one innate desire and that is for growth. I have dedicated myself to both identifying and removing any interferences to this innate drive for mastery.
The second interference to full empowerment is what I call “faulty learning.” Stop and think for a moment. If this survival reflex is active in every person you meet? Your parents had it, so did your teachers and your politicians. Too often the adults in our lives and our culture as a whole gave us information that was distorted by a brain that was wired to react with fear. They were not able to give us the information and tools we needed because they were limited by their own fear-based reactions, causing much pain and suffering. The well-intentioned adults in our life did not mean for us to feel inadequate or ashamed. We had no way of knowing that many of our beliefs and our emotional reactions were the result of conditioning by important people in our lives who were themselves being triggered into fear responses.